The ultimate answer

I was here minding my business, thinking about how Rodney McKay (Stargate Atlantis) told his little story about Archimedes getting his big answer while in the bath tub. He explained his reason for talking about it was that it was a pattern to use in solving his current life threatening issue. John Shepherd responded by saying that as much as he wanted to help with his problem, he would not bathe with him. The pattern was that it was in taking a bath that he was able to relax and free his mind from contemplating the issue that the answer was found.

Also, Lena found a little tree frog at my mother's house and played with it in the pool, by making it the captain of a ship (an inflatable raft thingy) she named it (or so I thought from having just watched an episode of Eureka) Archemedes. Later, I found out she was saying "Arrrr Mateys" oh well.

The real point is that there is a big question that I have been asking myself for years now, "which is better can or will?" I was feeling tonight like I had better answer it soon or just stop asking. A few times I thought that I clearly knew. In Sunday School the teacher handed out a paper that had steps of commitment and the absolute lowest step was could. Meaning you could do what was required but did not.

I get myself confused thinking about it, so I assigned two people to it. One who was asked to do something and did not even try but it was possible if he would, and another who would if he could, but it,was not possible. Both required time but which would prove the better choice to hope for? I stopped trying to think of an answer because I had more pressing matters to consider than to play a silly mind game with myself. That was when my conclusion, after over 4years of contemplation, came.

This big conclusion was that in my proposed scenario it was an easy answer. The better choice regardless of anything else was whoever I wanted to wait on. The decision of which is better did not rely as much on the ability or willingness of another, but on the willingness of myself which boils down to love. So, to answer which is better can or will, it is either. It is like that saying on the wall of my physical therapist, "If you think you can or you think you can't you're right."

I had read something much more eloquently put on another blog where the person decided that ultimately, relationships are established to cause a benefit not because of benefits. Like I said, it was much more eloquent, but that is my interpretation.