How to deal with unreal expectations

There is only one way to deal with an unreal expectation, do not have it in the first place.


Now on to the improper, uncertified way to deal with such an expectation, based on experience.



I loved this movie because My best friend and I had determined that we would end up dying old maids, So we decided to do something about it, by making a list of impossible charachteristics. It made us feel better because we knew what we wanted, it just so happened that such a person did not exsist. Though, I took it a bit more seriously and came close before figuring out that such a man would be considered Gay and I had my share of that mess. I only learned that my preferences were found on earth somewhere, I just needed to make some exceptions and take some risks or I'd never get the reward. I met my first husband and realized that he didn't fit a few key point on my list, but I thought maybe it wa those points that were causing trouble, oh heck, realistically, I fell smack dab in love and didn't care. I admire my freind for sticking to her list regardless.

When I ended up divorced I figured tha it was time to make a new list and stick to it, but my heart sank into a deep depression when I realized that again my list must go. One thing I do know though is that to find what I was looking for I had to be in the right places. Sort of like if you put on your list "Plays piano well." then you have to at least go to concerts or recitals or be a pianist yourself, or you would have just created an impossible list because it was impossible.

I saw a great video once about how you need to be careful who you attract. but this provides a whole lot of information:


Even hidden dangers might be lurking so it is better to not attract them, or in my case, the wrong husnband. But, as I stated, I do not have a way to pull happiness out of a hat but I have learned that it is better to remain true to your expectation, no matter how unrealistic it seems, if happiness is your goal, that is.