understanding? not yet.

My husband dared to call me a racist, clearly, he means something different than I do by the word. He also accused me of looking over his shoulder to see his pin number for his bank card. Whatever. I think it's all in his mind. I wonder who he thinks I am or am about, it just does not match up. I don't know what is common in marriage, but if I wanted to know a pin I would just ask for it. I would like to hear his definition of marriage, too. I find it very hard to believe that he thinks I wipe butts and clean things and make meals just cause I'm being nice.But he has formed some really disturbing and shocking ideas of who he thinks I am. I'm just comforted by the fact that God knows who I am and what I am about. I assumed that he would take the time to ask before marrying me. It is taking me completely by suprise the things he thinks of me. He even thought I would get mad because he didn't watch a movie with me. Was is supposed to? Is that why he did it? I was oblivious if that was the case. like I said, it is obvious that he doesn't know me, and keeping promises was all I was looking for. He doesn't even do that well, so what do I have in return for what I give? beautiful children. Who deserve a good life and to be understood.