This is the equalivant of giving a speech without having any idea or pattern for what you will say.
I was thinking about why it is that men just naturally seek to please women, and women expect them to. Admittedly, I was hurt that I was never proposed to and never got an engagement ring. My dad told me such rings demonstrate comitment to giving you the finest of things, even if it was not affordable. And it has proven to be a great example of thr sort of commitment my husband makes for me. Really, nothing he does is for me. But how it will make him appear, I thought that having no ring would reflect poorly on him and he would feel ahamed, he is more or less embarrased or ashamed of me. I bought him a ring and he broke it and threw it away, never really wore it anyway. It was the idea. A ring symbolizes eternity, that we would go on forever. I got him one that I thought he would like it was black hermatite, and sort of glossy, a conversation piece at least, but he got new plain ones, instead. I heard in a movie once that Jewelry cannot be purchased for oneself, so it is a better judge of your character to judge the things that people choose to give you or how much jeqwelry you have. I don't have any. I lost my Gospel in Action necklace down the drain, and cannot find my Youngwomenhood medalion, which I loved and wore near constantly for years. I guess that doesn't matter now, I have bigger concerns.
But, enough husband bashing! I only want to understand the reason why men are so femalecentric. I am guessing it has to do with Love and sex, but I am trying to comprehend how it fits into the story of our exsistance. and having said that, I bid you good night.
Ok, I was watching videos this morning and had this realization about why The ideal woman changes so much and yet some women are happy regardless.
I'll start there. I have noticed that so many women I idolized actually looked like me, and yet, they are considered beautiful. Specifically, I am referring to Andrea Corr and that lead singe chick for the Cranberries. I have always been slight, and self conscious about it. I see them and think, "Well, they don't have big boobs and still seem happy and confident." Ok Segue time!
I guess men saw women lke that and because they thought they were pretty then the men assumed that was what pretty was, a skinny little waif. I actually love that, but their wives didn't. Women all over the world wanted to be that ideal and it made them cranky because they just were never going to be that way, and diets make them unfriendly. Well, then men always seek to please so they instead say, "Oh, but honestly, we love bigger women." So, now we see larger women as the ideal. But, then where does that leave me? Unable to be large to have fat boobs and just jealous....enter cosmetic surgery and now we sort of have a hybrid of an ideal woman who is thin, with big boobs. Yeah, not going to happen, and if it does it is a freak of nature! I want to edit in a quote, "A beautiful young woman is a freak of nature. A beautifu older woman is a work of art." I guess with enough cosmetics and surgery we can all be works of art if that is the standard.not so desirable.
Really, the solution is for women to stop compaing themselves to one another but rather against what they should be, and let the men appreciate what you are each step of the way. Face it, we're goin to all get pregnant, old or ok at least uglier, then we die and get to pick how we look. I will get to pick out my ideal man then, so I see that it is acceptable to look at potential, etenally speaking, it is a lot longer. I tend to see what I will be dealing with forever rather than just until I die. Really, won't we have more children forever anyway? I mean how the heck did we become God's Children? If marriage isn't just an earthly thing, why do we fret about earthly attraction? I put my money on it has something to do with luring in the right guy. So, guys need to start appreciating health.
My conclusion this morning is that ultimately men are molding the world though I was feeling sorry for the way they are mistreated and yet constantly subserviant, like a little puppy dog. But, women love puppy dogs, huh? So the two (men and women) are intertwined and sort of need one another. It all works out in the end. I would like to write it out in a ballanced equation, but that would be pointless. And I want to start a new president that it can be said "none of the things she did in life were pointless." So, why am I still typing?
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